HOW TO BE CHARISMATIC

Whenever you meet people you don’t know, what you have to do first is to start with simple questions. Although the first few moments of the conversation are somehow critical as you have to define yourself and get to know about the person whom you are talking to. You should know how to charm someone. For this, you have to know the difference between charm and manipulation. Charm is something that makes you look worthy and reliable while manipulation is something about finding people’s weak points and then exploiting them. It isn’t good for a long term relationship. We all have to focus on how to please someone and make them feel comfortable.

There are so many ways to charm someone you have never met before.

● SPEAK GENTLY

When you get into a conversation you have to focus on your tone. You must speak gently. Remind yourself to be kind and use your inside voice while talking to new people because it influences others. While talking your tone is much more important than your words. It should be light and friendly. In addition to this your voice should not be loud it must be gentle and polite.

● BODY LANGUAGE

When you are going to introduce yourself to new people you must have an idea about their body language that if they are in a mood to talk to someone or not. Moreover, you have to make sure that your body language doesn’t make them feel uncomfortable. Few things matter like while talking you must have direct eye contact with that person, you must sit straight and give full attention to them. These behaviors influence them a lot.

● LISTEN PROPERLY

Listening is something more important than talking because it believes that when you are talking you are retrieving the things already present in your mind but when you start to listen there is a great chance to learn something new. This habit also helps you when you are going to console someone. Listening to other problems without interrupting them and mentioning their mistakes is something that can build rapport.

● REMEMBER NAMES

When you meet someone new, ask their name and try to remember it. It merely leaves a good impression on someone when you call them with their right names rather than say, lady, buddy, guy, etc.

How to do it

During a conversation, you must take time to pay attention and to focus on the information that you want to remember later if you are daydreaming at that time and getting distracted you would not be able to get them back in your brain’s memory. The easy way to remember someone’s name is to repeat it again and again during a conversation like if you meet a person named Sara you must say, HI! Sara, nice to meet you. This habit will help you to recall their names later whenever you meet again.

● KEEP SMILING

When you get into a conversation you must possess a long-lasting smile that will build an impression of being friendly and approachable.

● DON’T SHOWOFF YOURSELF

No matter what skills you have and how good and successful you are, you must not show off yourself. This is not the way to charm somebody. You must focus on their interests and the answers that they are giving to you rather than to interrupt them and show your experiences and skills. Let them share.

● BE POSITIVE

This world is full of negativity. There is always bad news anyway. Despite this, we have to spread positive and good thoughts. While talking to someone we should discuss the things that can refresh one’s mind and can make them happy and relaxed. At the end of a day, no one remembers the person they talk to but they feel the impact they left on their mind.

CONCLUSION

We should make a purpose for our lives. We have to spread love and positive vibes wherever we go. Similarly, we should praise one’s thoughts rather than get into meaningless gossip. Try to make them feel comfortable so that they can share their feelings and sorrow without hesitation. We should be a mindful listener, be attentive, and remember the little things about that person. Don’t be judgemental. All these qualities will help you to please someone and create a lovely place in their hearts. Let’s start from today and make people feel great by bringing some little joy in the conversation and being a sparkle of good energy in one’s day.